Based in Chicago, IL. In Her Life is a blog by Amber Snearl. Her posts explore modern ideals of success, politics, personal experiences as a POC, feminism and everyday life.

Homeboy, I'm Not Here for You

Homeboy, I'm Not Here for You

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In my uber Yes, my uber out of all places to have this debate

My  driver asked me "how long have you been all natural like this?"
I paused because it was literally the second time within an hour that a man asked me that & it made me laugh since my Afro and bare face was apparently such a commodity all of a sudden
Before I could even respond I was commended
Thanked
For contributing to his patriarchal mindset
"You know, men don't like all that makeup and fake hair anyway" the driver proceeded to tell me
I had to stop him right there
Uh.
Sir.
If it hasn't already been made clear
Women don't have to or not have to wear makeup for the satisfaction of a man
I do nothing for the acceptance of a man's approval
Don't get me wrong, both sexes do things to impress the other
but that is situational
My appearance is for me 100% of the time, because man or no man..I come home to me
I'll die me
With me
& covering up or not
Making my face up or not
It's for me
Pick Ya Brain, Not My Hair

Pick Ya Brain, Not My Hair

Dear Unarmed Black Man